
Simone Seol
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Starting in 2025, I’m taking a fixed salary.
Outside of that + my company’s basic operating costs, I’m donating the rest of our profits.
Here’s why I’m making this decision.
For the second half of this year, I’ve been taking sabbatical. And I’ve had the opportunity to do nothing but to think deeply.
And one of the realizations I’ve arrived at is this: we can live in either one of two modes: what I call the “hungry ghost” mode, or in spiritual wholeness.
Hungry ghost
“Hungry ghost” is a term that comes from Buddhism and Chinese folks religion.
The way I use this term colloquially, I am referring to a way of being that says: more, more, more, more. Never enough.
It is animated by an insatiable, ever-deepening gnawing existential void inside that nothing can fill.
The void plays host to an endless array of addictions — to more work, more money, more “growth”, more popularity, more comfort, more convenience, more entertainment, more dopamine, more adrenaline, more power.
More more more more more.
And, paradoxically, even when you accumulate and hoard more and more, the void doesn’t actually get filled. It somehow gets deeper, darker, more terrifying.
So then the addiction becomes even more frenzied. So then you get even more addicted to the chase. Then the void grows even deeper. And so on it goes…

The void is the very engine of consumerism (and so much of “business growth”).
The bigger the people’s void, the more they consume (and “work” a lot of the time), and the more alienated they grow from their own souls, and disconnected they become from everything life-giving, connective, and sacred.
Hungry ghost syndrome is not new to humanity — insatiable greed has always existed — but it has been inflamed to grotesque proportions and normalized amongst the populace to a terrifying degree thanks to capitalism.
Spiritual wholeness
The alternative to “hungry ghost” syndrome is spiritual wholeness.
You can have one, or the other. But not both. And there is nothing in between. No such thing as a middle ground. Pick one.
Spiritual wholeness is the opposite of the perpetual state of addiction that attempts to fill the void within. Consumerism, addiction, and alienation meet their end in spiritual wholeness.
The critical ingredient to spiritual wholeness that indigenous wisdom traditions have known for all ages, all over the world, is right relationship.
Right relationship with ourselves, our communities, with non-human living beings, with the Earth, and with unseen energies.
Right relationship with knowledge, money and material things (not “possessions,” since Buddhism teaches me that there is no such thing).
Right relationship between two beings requires attention, respect, and balance.
And one thing I have come to reflect on deeply is that excess is antithetical to right relationship.
- What is enough — the opposite of excess?
- What does it mean to steward (not “own”) enoughness?
Enoughness is not a fixed state.
What is enough for a healthy person is not the same as what is enough for a sick person. What is enough for an infant is not the same as what is enoughs for a teenager, which is not the same as what is enough for an elderly person. What is enough in a state of crisis is not the same as what is enough in a state of calm.
So it is a dynamic, moving idea.
And yet… we must never cease asking, “what is a balance that constitutes enoughness? And how do we meet it wisely?”
Otherwise, we cease to be in right relationship.
So, in 2025, I decided to enter into an experiment.
I call it an experiment, because everything is an experiment.
We try things, we learn and grow from them, and we try things differently, better — hopefully — based on the new knowledge we’ll glean. I don’t know what I’ll learn from this upcoming experiment that will make future experiments different.
But for now, here is what I am committed to.
I am taking a fixed salary.
It is a salary that will allow my family to live comfortably.
Not extravagantly, but with all of our basic needs AND many comforts met, while allowing us to save some for our future, while also allowing us to exercise a bit of generosity in our private lives.
(And no, I’m not sharing this number — on purpose. I have no problem sharing numbers.
But I feel that, once the number is known, it becomes distracting. Some may think it’s too much, some may think it’s too little, and more importantly, it may, for many, unconsciously become a kind of cutoff line at which people are “allowed to” make similar decisions. And none of that is useful, because the number itself is not the point.
The “enoughness” number will be different for everyone, and it will be different even for me at different stages of my life.)
My company also has ongoing expenses. My team members need to be paid, and there are tech expenses, taxes, etc.
And if we have profits on top of that — and I’m honestly not sure how much of them we’ll have, given that I’m also intending to move at a much slower pace and making significant changes to my business, leaving behind many features that used to reliably bring in “big money” — I intend to donate them to nonprofit organizations that support decolonization and climate justice.
I thought long and hard about whether to talk about this publicly at all.
Because, at the end, I’m not doing this for anyone but for myself. (Remember the whole thing about spiritual health? It’s MY spiritual health I’m choosing.)
But ultimately, I chose to speak about it publicly, because I don’t think I would’ve thought to move in this direction if it weren’t for indigenous, Confucian, Taoist and Buddhist teachers of mine who shared wisdom and stories of their own lives and lineages that exemplified what it means to live in right relationship, away from capitalism’s dictates.
And I think that matters — sharing of stories. If it could support and embolden at least one other person to move in similar directions, I would be very happy.
This is an uncertain and perilous time for many across the world.
The more of us there are who are connected to the health of our spirits, the better hope we have of creating a world that is safe for our descendants to inhabit.
The most ignored dream-killer
There’s a poison that kills your ability to grow, achieve your goals, and do good in the world…
… that I see almost no one talking about.
“Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can” – Arthur Ashe
In order for this quote to have full impact, I need to give the corollary.
Don’t try to start from somewhere other than where you are.
Don’t try to make use of resources you don’t have.
Don’t try to do something you don’t know how to do.
This is SORELY underrated wisdom. In fact, our culture currently encourages AGAINST it.
Making $500 a month now? Why not go for six figs and try to quit your job next month? Why not you?
Shoot for the moon and land among the stars!
Want to make mental healthcare accessible to all who need it?
Sure, invest all your hopes and dreams and 401K in a national network of care providers, even though you’re behind on bills, have little organizing experience, and even less marketing skills.
Heartbroken about genocide happening in a continent you’ve never been to? Why not try to figure out how to end it NOW, even though the brightest minds who are native to the region have dedicated their lives to peace have failed for decades?
This isn’t a call for pessimism or resignation. This isn’t me saying, “sit down and be realistic.” Fuck that.
Instead, this is a call to be awake to our tendency to hold ourselves up to impossible, ill-informed standards buoyed only by the kind optimism that has never been tested by reality. The same kind that political opportunists and marketing hucksters are always gleeful to take advantage of.
Hear me. It is NOT a cop out or a laziness to “start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.”
In fact, it is often the shrewdest, most courageous, sensible and HELPFUL thing you can do.
(Ever have an intern with zero experience come into your office? It takes way more work to TRAIN them before they can be useful in any way. Don’t be that intern to your own project.)
Do your research. Chances are, there are people who are better-resourced already doing something similar.
This doesn’t mean you should be discouraged. Learn from them. They can help you. In a community effort, there are no lone heroes.
Instead of jumping off a cliff and saying a Hail Mary, test out a small, workable version of your vision.
Learn from it and iterate.
Never, ever compare your work to those with bigger budgets and platforms.
Arthur Ashe’s words REQUIRE you to believe in the honor and dignity of your role, wherever you are.
I wouldn’t do shit with my money and so-called “platform” if I were over here comparing myself to Mackenzie freaking Scott.
Compared to the the “all or nothing”, “be the sole hero” approach, the “Starting where you are, using what you have, doing what you can” approach allows you to:
(1) cultivate an awareness of your current strengths and weaknesses,
(2) build capacity and learn what you need to know as you go,
and
(3) develop a sustainable infrastructure and the endurance you need in order to achieve your goals in the long run. (Critical.)
“I need to figure it all out and do it all NOW” is a disease of toxic, individualist capitalism.
It is more of a manifestation of our collective neurosis than it is a genuine statement of moral conviction.
It is also the principal disruptor of sustainable and equitable processes that can win at the end.
Whether your goal is building a community-nourishing business or fighting the climate crisis, keep Arthur Ashe’s words close to your heart.
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
Where that takes you will surprise you.
Multidimensional ambition
Not turned on by the prospects of earning millions (other than thinking not worrying about money would be nice)… or being on TV, and making headlines?
You’re not broken, or destined for “mediocrity”.
You know, I think our society has a very warped relationship with the idea of ambition.
The only form of ambition it glorifies is one that concerns (1) money, (2) worldly status, and (3) the individual.
That has many people who DO seek ambition ending up lonely, feeling empty and burnt out, with broken homes… and at worst, do harm to the communities around them.
So let’s look at how much more multidimensional the ambition can be.
One form of ambition is RELATIONAL.
How rich are you in relationships? Yeah, a lot of people know you, but how many people know you?
How much closeness do you enjoy, and with how many people?
A relationally ambitious person doesn’t stop at transactional and surface relationships. They invest in depth and intimacy. They know how, they keep learning how to be even better at it, and they reap the rewards.
Another form of ambition is CREATIVE.
We are all creative — even if your thing isn’t what is conventionally considered “art”.
A creatively ambitious person makes stuff as a response to their own aliveness, vs. to please an audience, or to fulfill the demands of capitalism.
How much of your time do you spend making stuff, just for the fun of it, just because you’re responding to an impulse inside of you? (There are enormously “successful” “artists” who haven’t created for the fun of it in a loooong time. They haven’t been creatively ambitious because they’ve been too busy feeding the “success machine.”)
Another form of ambition is DOMESTIC.
There are people for whom a lovingly-tended, beautiful and happy home is the ultimate and highest form of wealth. My mom is such a person.
Home-making isn’t something the patriarchy “forced” her to do. It is a sacred vocation that makes her come alive more than anything else, and this is true for many people — of all genders.
For a domestically ambitious person, a home is their church, their workplace AND playspace, their exhibit, and their sanctuary.
Another form of ambition is SPIRITUAL.
Elon Musk might have won the “worldly ambition” game.
But a monk you’ve never heard of who’s been silently meditating in a cave in the Himalayas for the past 15 years — and finds the ultimate meaning and fulfillment in that — takes the cake when it comes to spiritual ambition.
Spiritual ambition seeks communion with the transcendent, the divine.
Another form of ambition is SERVICE.
People who seek to help others and drive change in the world because they derive meaning and fulfillment in that, in and of itself, regardless of what comes back to them, are ambitious in terms of service.That’s pretty self-explanatory, right?
The last form of ambition is the ambition for SPACIOUSNESS.
There are people — and cultures, even — that find the highest fulfillment in… well, not doing a whole lot.
They do NOT see the validation of identity or purpose in WORK.
Dolce far niente. Leisureliness. Insouciance. The space to wonder, wander, dream, nap, and simply BE.
***An important note I want to make is that (1) I literally just thought of these, so this is not some kind of absolute or exhaustive list (feel free to think of your own list!) and (2) these are, obviously, NOT mutually exclusive.It’s not like you have to choose between the binaries of “worldly” vs “spiritual”…
… though, in terms of the constraints of 3D space and time, we sometimes have to make tradeoffs. (For example, you can’t paint AND build refugee camps at the exact same time!)
I believe that each of us has every single types of ambition — in different amounts — inside of us.
And we are called to make choices that best express and fulfill our inner ambitions, even with the aforementioned 3D constraints.
I share this with the hope that it gives you a sense of relief and validation that your desires and yearnings matter and are worth pursuing…… even if they don’t conform to individualistic and capitalistic ideals.
I’m Simone Seol
I am here for humans who want to human more humanely.
Business / Cold Pitching / Copywriting / Decolonization / Inspiration and Encouragement / Mental Health / Money / Personal Stuff / Philosophical-ish Musings / Sales / Social Justice